Basic Tips on Writing Memoirs

NOT WRITING THE OBVIOUScharacter', to be confusing. Our lives and
The use of sensual clues: colors, smell, sound,personalities will always have ragged edges, and
touch, taste.our memoirs should reflect that if they are to ring
As writers we have to be not just poets, buttrue.
painters. A painter has to decide what details toSo the richness of your memoirs will in part have
keep in, and what to leave out. What bogs downto do with the depth and subtlety of your
so many memoirs is an abundance of deadlyperception of others. Many of these characters
detail. It's partly an anxiety to be truthful, towill have been brought up in a different era, and in
reproduce faithfully what a person was like, ordifferent social situations, their personalities and
what happened, step by laborious step - but it'sattitudes formed by these differences. The
partly laziness. We have not taken the bald facts,tensions, subtleties and challenges these
the basic ingredients and magic-ed them into adifferences produce have somehow to be
creative picture.conveyed, that's partly why it's important to
Think of a portrait painter, an impressionisticcapture the character of time and place, as well
interpretation can often reveal more about aas of personality, when dealing with, say, our
character and situation than a minutely detailedparents and grandparents. Make sure that in any
painting which robs the portrait of soul, andreported speech, you use the idioms of the
frequently obscures personality with it's detail.period. More subtly, make sure that the reactions
If you want an illustration of how to use theof your characters reflect the understandings and
senses to evoke a scene, read the openingmoraes of the times in which they lived, rather
paragraph of "The Visitor", A Prospect of thethan current attitudes.
Sea, by Dylan Thomas (J.M. Dent 1955).OURSELVES AS CHARACTER.
Describe.....It was a revelation to me when I first heard
CHARACTER IN MEMOIR WRITINGsomeone say that when writing memoirs you
Writing autobiography is of course, not just aboutmust remember to think of yourself as a
us. We're writing about all the others who peoplecharacter. Once you're on the page, you too are
our lives, our memories, our realities, so a gooda character to be manipulated for the purposes
autobiography will have characters, in the sameof your story, for what you are trying to say.
way that a work of fiction has characters. SomeThis perception helps us to be objective and the
characters will just be vignettes, people who passdiscipline we apply to other characters and how
through the story temporarily, but there will be awe reveal them, we can apply to ourselves as
core of permanent characters, and these mustthe subject of the autobiography. We too have
evolve as the narrative progresses.become a character in a book. That liberates us.
What makes character? It has been said that aIt gives us an objectivity about our experiences.
good character has internal conflict. Some authorsMany new writers tell the story of their lives like
say you have to know characters inside out, toa synopsis, instead of unraveling it, bit by bit, like
have their psyche at your finger tips. That mayany other adventure story, because an adventure
be OK for fiction, but we are writing non-fiction,story it certainly is. As memoir writers, we still
writing about people who really have, or do exist,have to build in suspense, paradox, unknowability.
and who have lived lives that are not mere fiction.To this end one approach is to try writing in the
Our role then is primarily to observe, but tomoment, ie. writing about your childhood self
observe with such sensitivity that we can detectwithin the confines of the understanding of that
paradox. We don't have to try to resolve thesechild, and not necessarily with the hindsight of
conundrums, not even when the paradox involvesmaturity; being the character in love who really
our selves. This sensitivity to complexity is whatdoesn't know what will happen next, the
can give our narrative text depth.character setting out on a journey, destination
There can also be a tendency, when writingunknown.
autobiographical material, to tie things up intoSo when you write about yourself, use your
parcels, to 'concretize' emotions or reactionsmemory, but also your writer's eye. Your writer's
because then they're dealt with, and we knoweye is both objective and engaged. You enter in,
where we are. This is what Mum was like, this istrying at one level to empathize with your
what happened, and this is what I feel/felt aboutcharacters, including yourself, and yet you remain
it. In wanting to understand ourselves we can endan observer, for ever on the outside.
up putting ourselves, and others, into boxes, forWordsworth, you recall, described poetry as
neatness sake. Perhaps that's something to beemotion recollected in tranquility. He experienced
wary of. As people we evolve, and so we mustit, then, as a poet, he distanced himself to
allow the characters in our narrative to evolve,observe the experience. That's a bit what I'm
and to surprise us sometimes, to act 'out ofgetting at.