| It is a well-known fact that life is not fair. If it | | | | rejection is finding people who will improve your |
| were, we would not need laws and courts, or | | | | feeling of self-worth. As an example; if you are a |
| government agencies and promises of rewards in | | | | writer, seek out local writing groups or maybe |
| the hereafter. There will be times when you are | | | | coffee shops that have "Open Mic Nights". You |
| going to face rejection; whether it is from a | | | | can attend writing seminars to hone your craft, |
| company, a boyfriend or girlfriend, a spouse etc. | | | | and then read some samples of your works at |
| So, you have to look at ways of overcoming the | | | | the coffee shops. In addition, just being around |
| depression that follows rejection. | | | | people who believe in you, and encourage you in |
| Staying motivated starts with yourself: your own | | | | your endeavors can be a tremendous help in |
| positive mental attitude. After that, a little | | | | keeping you motivated despite rejection. If your |
| self-examination is called for. Look for ways in | | | | friends and family tend to be the "glass half |
| which to improve yourself. If you were trying to | | | | empty" sorts, you are going to have trouble |
| catch the eye of that certain lady (or gentleman), | | | | getting over rejection. So, seek out more positive |
| what might you do to make yourself more | | | | people. Now, you do want to be careful; you do |
| appealing to them? Do you need to change | | | | not want to be surrounded by a bunch of "yes |
| something about your appearance, your attitudes, | | | | men" (or women). Just look at some of the |
| your beliefs? If it was a job you were after, are | | | | people who were rejected from "American Idol". |
| there some classes you can take to make you | | | | How many of them just knew absolutely that |
| better suited for the job you are trying to get. | | | | they were great singers? Why? - Because their |
| If you wrote a pilot for a TV show, and it was | | | | friends and family told them so. That is why a |
| rejected by a network, are there some things | | | | little honest encouragement is the most important |
| you can do to improve the script? It could be as | | | | thing to help you stay motivated. |
| simple as having someone read it to give you | | | | Then there is another thing to consider. Going |
| feedback, or maybe you need a professional | | | | back to the "American Idol" example; consider |
| consultant to review and assess it. Or maybe you | | | | how many fine singers didn't make the final cut. |
| need to take some writing classes. Another way | | | | After all, in the end, there can only be one winner; |
| of boosting your morale is by entering your work | | | | even in this politically correct world of ours. So, if |
| in some writing contests. Even if you don't win, | | | | you get hit with rejection, it does not necessarily |
| just having more people read your material can | | | | mean that you are not any good. If you are up |
| make you feel better. | | | | for a big promotion at work and you don't get it, |
| Then look at other examples of people who have | | | | it doesn't mean that you are no good. It can |
| been rejected, yet overcome it to ultimately | | | | merely mean that there was one position |
| succeed. Richard Hooker, the author of the novel | | | | available, and maybe the company simply decided |
| "MASH" saw his book rejected by more than a | | | | someone else was the skills they wanted. You still |
| dozen publishers before it made it into print. One | | | | have your own skills. |
| of the greatest children's writers in history, Dr. | | | | Rejection doesn't have to mean you're no good; it |
| Seuss, was rejected time and again by publishers; | | | | can just mean you're not in the right place at the |
| but he kept at it, and - well, the rest is history! | | | | right time. |
| The next step in staying motivated despite | | | | |