| In the last article, we began to look at Unified | | | | her know when something is important to us. |
| Couple's Values. These are the things that BOTH | | | | The good news is: It is not necessary that all of |
| partners hold very dear in the relationship. | | | | your individual values be the same as the values |
| We reviewed the questions below: | | | | that you share as a couple. Things that are |
| What matters most to each of us individually? | | | | important to you as an individual are your |
| What matters most to us collectively as a unit? | | | | personal values but things that are important to |
| Where do we need to communicate our needs in | | | | both you and your partner are your Couple's |
| order to have harmony or overlap? | | | | Unified Relationship Values. There is no set |
| At our recent retreat, one of our couples who | | | | number of how many values that you must |
| have been married 30 years were really happy to | | | | share. You as a couple get to determine that. |
| find that they were super aligned on most of | | | | In most individuals, values are often presumed |
| their couple's values. And by doing the practice | | | | and are part of the unconscious self. |
| of finding their Unified Couple's Values, they got to | | | | Therefore, this lack of awareness leads to |
| see where some personal values were not | | | | assuming what the other person feels or thinks, |
| important to their mate. When we get this | | | | which is a dangerous game and can be fatal to |
| information, we can release our expectations so | | | | harmony or even the relationship. |
| and let our mate off of the hook and we can | | | | By defining the important aspects and the values |
| insure that we tend to that need or value | | | | of your relationship, you set a tone of |
| ourselves. | | | | understanding and a foundation of true |
| When we see the overlap, or the lack thereof, | | | | partnership. This sets everyone up to win. |
| we are better equipped to know when our mate | | | | With this step, you can see where you stand |
| will be on board or not. By knowing these simple | | | | individually, you can clearly what is important as a |
| things, it is easier to avoid getting bogged down in | | | | couple, and you can use this list to connect in a |
| expectation and disappointment. We will also have | | | | heartbeat. |
| more room for acceptance, patience and | | | | Imagine how easy it can be to just close the |
| tolerance. | | | | door on work and life and get in sync with your |
| We get to better see our partner's motivation so | | | | beloved so seamlessly. |
| we are better equipped to support her and let | | | | |