| Your Save-the-Dates have been mailed out ages | | | | and it will be beautiful, because it is coming from |
| ago. Your friends are waiting with anxiously for | | | | you to your new spouse. Just sit at first and |
| your wedding day, or at least you imagine they | | | | write a stream of consciousness about how you |
| are. The invitations have been sent out. The | | | | feel about your potential partner. Edit yourself a |
| menus have been gone over more than once. | | | | couple times over the course of the next couple |
| The limousines are all lined up. The date is fast | | | | days until you have exactly how you feel and |
| approaching, is there anything else you may have | | | | what you want to say.o Perhaps you like to talk |
| forgotten? Ah, yes your wedding vows. You could | | | | about how long you waited for the right person.o |
| of course leave it up to the official who will marry | | | | The ups and downs of your relationships.o Your |
| you and your potential spouse or you could write | | | | love at first sight.o The honesty, love, and |
| or gather them yourselves. | | | | specialness of the relationship.o The idea that |
| There are several things or ways in which you | | | | separately you are good, but together you are |
| can come up with your wedding vows. You can | | | | great.o God separated you at some other time, |
| of course confer with your spouse-to-be about | | | | but has seen fit to bring you back together.o How |
| what type of vows you'd like to use. The | | | | much you love each other, why, when you came |
| response of course, could run the gamut from | | | | to that conclusion, where it happened, how you |
| the traditional to something so out of the ordinary | | | | were able to stay together through challenges |
| that no one would ever forget, but whichever | | | | along the way.o How you met and why from the |
| way you do go, the type and style of the | | | | outside looking in, you know it seemed |
| wedding will probably be the clue to the guests as | | | | impossibility for you all to stay together, but you |
| to what may come. The style will also give you a | | | | always you knew you could and would.o How |
| clue as to from which direction might want to go | | | | your partner is like a flower, an adorable animal, a |
| when writing your vows or you of course can | | | | picture, an element, mineral, or nature. |
| just go with the flow. | | | | Tip 4 |
| Tip 1 | | | | You could pick passages from the Book of Ruth |
| Sit down with your future spouse and decide | | | | or from the Song of Solomon in the Bible:o Use |
| what you would like to convey to each. (Many | | | | parts of it and add your additions to it or again |
| women and sometimes men will have an idea that | | | | use some of the famous lines and expound. We |
| they have kicked around since childhood but since | | | | used the latter and built a somewhat call and |
| you are about to go into a joint venture together, | | | | response to include the congregants at our |
| please consult your future spouse.) | | | | wedding.o By adding the call and response, your |
| Tip 2 | | | | guests are not just sitting as an audience but are |
| Determine whether or not you want to make up | | | | a participatory part of the ceremony which adds |
| something fresh. If you are both poets or lyricists | | | | an additional appeal. People love helping out |
| or even ministers or actors, or even writers it | | | | wedding couples, [and expectant parents] no |
| may not be a problem, since words just fall from | | | | matter how small. |
| your lips naturally. If not, you may want to | | | | Tip 5 |
| consult your favorite writers or poets and | | | | Vows don't have to be recited either; you could |
| homogenize something into your own. | | | | have the minister; administer them to you as you |
| Whatever you do decide to choose, make sure | | | | repeat afterwards the new special vows. |
| you can make sense of it when you either read it | | | | Tip 6 |
| or memorize and speak it during the ceremony. | | | | You could also sing your vows to each other. A |
| Tip 3 | | | | friend of mine married another opera singer and |
| If you and your spouse decide to go with | | | | they chose opera pieces to sing to each other. |
| something that is already established in another | | | | They chose famous opera pieces of love [Let's |
| medium;o Famous quotes, which could be | | | | face it most operas are about romance with life |
| incorporated into something else that you have | | | | getting in the way of a great thing, but with |
| written and want to say about your future | | | | triumph in the end.] That way you have |
| spouse.o Choose lyrics from your favorite song, | | | | ready-made vows, which the only thing you may |
| or even "your song" and expound on that to your | | | | need to do is translate so the congregants will |
| future spouse. | | | | understand that you are singing about love rather |
| A beautiful song for such things might be what | | | | than throttling the other person. |
| my husband and I had planned to dance to as our | | | | Writing your own vows can be an amazing part |
| first song. "The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face" | | | | of your wedding. It is not hard and it can be a lot |
| or "Someone to Watch Over Me" or "Fallin" (Alicia | | | | of fun. You can write silly vows or very serious. |
| Keys). Take a look at any of the lyrics from | | | | It depends on what you want to convey to your |
| these songs and I am sure you will get inspired, if | | | | future spouse and are willing to share with a |
| you are not already inspired by the idea of writing | | | | crowd. Also, you can surprise each by not telling |
| your own vows. | | | | the other what you will write, but make sure you |
| ยท The best thing might be to start or end with | | | | give a deadline or one person may be surprised a |
| the title or famous line of the song, but to write | | | | little bit more than they want to be at the altar, |
| your own feelings about your future spouse in the | | | | especially if it has become a forgotten art rather |
| middle. | | | | than a romantic or silly interval in the ceremony. |
| Tip 3 | | | | Whatever is chosen writing your vows together |
| Just because it is part of the ceremony, it does | | | | or apart can be fun, enlightening, or even |
| not have to rhyme. There is no need to put such | | | | romantic and amazingly easy to do. Have fun. |
| pressure upon yourselves. Speak from your heart | | | | |